Part four

Myths and the power of stories

“We think we tell stories, but stories often tell us, tell us to love or to hate, to see or to be blind” …. “Often, too often, stories saddle us, ride us, whip us onward, tell us what to do, and we do it without questioning. The task of learning to be free requires learning to hear them, to question them, to pause and hear silence, to name them, and then to become the storyteller.” Rebecca Solnit

“Protest involves the taking up of space.” Helen Morales

In this post I will be drawing from Helen Morales’ book, Antigone Rising: The Subversive Power of the Ancient Myths, which through the examination of several myths touches upon all the important issues that we are facing today, and probably have dealt with to some extent since antiquity. I will inevitably touch upon a few themes only within the space if this piece.

I believe that myths and fairy tales give us new ways of looking at and understanding the world. In particular, Greek and Roman mythology have been broadly influential in Western culture and beyond.  Greek and Roman myths explore love, citizenship,  leadership, freedom, justice, ethics, moral dilemmas, politics, war, revenge and punishment,  abuse of power, relational violence and human weaknesses. Through the characters and events in the myths people can reflect on their local politics, difficult moral dilemmas and dynamics in relationships. Morales claims that “being able to explore questions such as what makes good leadership and how to resist state fascism allows audiences to reflect on those issues in relation to particular, local events, at one remove.” Myths, she says, enlarge people and literary characters when they overlay them with attributes and accomplishments from the figures in ancient myths.

To engage in any conversation, whether that be around art, politics, ethics, law, justice, philosophy, religion,  history, health, gender or the environment, will probably involve, to some degree or other, engaging with ideas from ancient Greece and Rome. Ideas from classical antiquity have influenced declarations, constitutions, professional guidelines, trades union movements, gay rights and political and economic theories, but as Morales writes they have also been used to justify “fascism, slavery, white supremacy, and misogyny.” She writes: “Ancient Greeks and Romans have given us a rich and influential inheritance of mythology, philosophy, architecture, theater, and politics. We do not need to hide the destructive aspects of these legacies, nor do we need to use antiquity to perpetrate myths of European and Western superiority to appreciate the value of ancient Greece and Rome.”

Critical evaluation of myths and ideas from antiquity does not deny the value of Greek and Roman inheritance. I’d like to highlight this because sometimes my posts, and maybe even the simple act of posting art and written material, are met with some pushback, even more so because I live in a small community. I am aware that these recent posts to do with classic antiquity and Greek mythology might trigger some resistance in some people or get misinterpreted. But I believe that myths and stories can be powerful in awakening us and that reading them critically, engaging in a new conversation, and using them creatively and artistically can be productive and empowering for society at large. The book mentioned above demonstrates the role that ancient myth plays in our cultural hardwiring, but also shows us how these stories from antiquity can be used to bring about change. And in any case, myths have always been read selectively, re-created, adapted, since antiquity, when as Morales says the different versions of myths operated collectively as a kind of long-running conversation. If we want to create a more respectful, peaceful and inclusive world we need to learn about the stories that define our social realities, reflect on and interact with them to reach new understandings and perhaps write different endings. Morales writes: “we’re due for a fresh understanding of how ancient Greek and Roman myths, and their characters, can be claimed and defined by all of us who want to resist the current movement toward greater patriarchal control and who are working to make this a more equal, empathetic, and enlightened world.”

As I mentioned the book covers many issues, but I will only discuss or refer to a few topics. I’ll begin with dieting and dress code and the policing of girls mostly through control of the way they dress and eat. Morales writes that “girls’ safety, school dress codes, and dieting, as well as dealing with a changing political climate in which their freedoms were being curtailed and environmental protections reversed— are all underpinned by cultural narratives. One of the planks in this ideological scaffolding is classical mythology. Part of being empowered and fighting back involves understanding these myths and their cultural impact and turning them to our own advantage.” She claims that some of our beliefs in relation to school dress codes and the policing of women’s dress more generally go back to antiquity, and to ignore this history blinds us to how entrenched some violent social structures really are. She writes: “The first step toward understanding, and therefore doing something to prevent, misogyny is to recognize how and where it is culturally hardwired.” She explains that misogyny isn’t just an attitude toward women that individual men and women may hold; instead it functions to enforce and police women’s subordination against the backdrop of other intersecting systems of oppression and vulnerability, dominance and disadvantage. One of the main ways in which misogyny does this is by differentiating between “good women” and foreign or “bad women” and punishing the supposedly “bad women.”

The topic of policing women’s dress it is not just a contemporary practice, but has a long history. Morales writes: “Ancient Greek and Roman regulations are a small, but foundational, part of the long history of dress codes. At its beginning are the gunaikonomoi, the “women controllers,” of ancient Greece. Gunaikonomoi (Γυναικονόμοι) were city officials, elected to office, whose responsibility was to ensure that women dressed and behaved appropriately. Controlling adornment, dress, behavior and order were inextricably linked.  In most cities, respectable women were not allowed out in public much; they spent their time in the women’s quarters of their homes. Slaves and poor women would have been forced to venture out to get water or work….. by and large, the only time that respectable women went out in public in ancient Greece was for religious festivals and events like funerals and weddings. …. Women who had committed adultery were not allowed to participate in Athenian festivals or to enter temples, and it might have been the job of the gunaikonomos to keep records of women who had been found guilty of committing adultery and to enforce the law excluding them from public religious life….”

Morales refers to sources like the Andania inscription that suggests that the gunaikonomos would tear the clothing that violated the dress code and dedicate it to the gods, and to other sources that suggest that girls and women who broke the dress code were given fines, notices of their transgressions were posted on a white board on a plane tree in a public area, and also, put under a kind of house arrest, exiled from the few areas of public life they had access to. Shaming was part of the penalty. Plutarch also describes restrictions placed upon women in Athens by the lawmaker Solon. For instance, he writes: “Women’s behavior at funerals was regulated; public displays of grief that were too passionate and prolonged were outlawed.” Another example is the Oppian Law, introduced in 216 BCE as an emergency measure, during wartime. to curb the increasing visibility and independence of Roman women, but there was pressure to repeal the law. The women of Rome protested for days blocking access to government buildings. Morales writes: “The mass demonstrations were extraordinary— it was not socially sanctioned for women to assemble in public and protest— and they were successful: the Oppian Law was repealed in 195 BCE”.

In reference to school dress codes, whether it is about an adult bending over to check attire fit, or measuring blouse straps or skirt length, Morales says that they are about more than dress: they are a means of shaming and enforcing patriarchal control. Reading this chapter took me back to my early teen years. I know first hand what it feels like to have the length of your skirt measured in the midst of a crowd of students, whose skirts are actually no longer than yours and then have the hem of your new school uniform taken out because the skirt is a centimeter above the knee instead of reaching the middle of the knee. At school I had tried to laugh it off, but deep inside it hurt. I knew I had broken no rules. My mother had it made adhering to the school regulations. Mostly I remember having to walk home with the hem of my skirt half undone and feeling both anger rise in me and the powerlessness of the situation, wondering why she had to rip the hem in front of everyone else instead of talking with me in private. Turning to history and ancient stories helps us become aware of patterns and connections across time and contexts, and see how systems and structures work, and hopefully, resist these old practices or stories and do something to change the world by changing the narratives.

Another chapter in the book is dedicated to body size, stories of practices of measuring students in college campuses and comparing them with Venus de Milo [the statue missing two arms that was found on the Greek island Milos], dieting and the diet culture, which according to Morales sometimes misquotes or relies heavily on Hippocrates, who she writes: “may seem like a surprising authority for modern health writers. Medicine has come a long way since the fifth and fourth centuries BCE.” She is also critical of how other parts of Hippocrates’ work is ignored, like for instance, his advise against restrictive diets for healthy people (breaking such a diet was a risk to one’s health)” and concludes that Hippocrates’s outlook was considerably more complicated and varied than what is usually quoted. She also makes reference to the Hippocratic oath sworn by all physicians, which states “I remember that I remain a member of society, with special obligations to all my fellow human beings” (my [Morales’] emphasis) and to abide by the maxim “first do no harm” (this is not, as is often thought, in the oath itself, but an equivalent sentiment is found in Hippocrates’s Epidemics).” Finally, she suggests that Aristotle’s call to eat until satiety and to reflect on the reasons for overeating is a better and kinder prescription for human happiness and health.

Morales links women’s oppression, racism and the politics of “fat”. She writes that “fat” was part of a trend in the 18th and 19th centuries, in theories and popular culture, which linked fatness to blackness and thinness to whiteness. She cites sources that suggest that fat phobia in relation to black women, for instance, did not stem from medical concerns about health, but with the association among fatness, blackness, stupidity, and savagery. At the same time, an association grew among thinness, whiteness, intelligence, and civilization. Morales believes that these images have been used to degrade black women and discipline white women, She also situates herself in the story. She describes how she was put on a diet when she was ten years old and was allowed one thousand calories per day, plus a bag of Maltesers chocolates as a treat every evening. She concludes: “My story is not unusual.”

Myths also contain difficult topics like sexual violence. Morales says “some of these myths invite us to empathize with the women who are assaulted, and they show insight into the psychology of sexual assault and the effects of trauma on the victims of the assault.” I would add that some fairy tales also describe the effects of this kind of violence, and it is really interesting to see this depth of insight into trauma responses way before trauma theories and scientific research were developed.  For instance, Morales refers to Ovid who depicts women who are attacked leaving their bodies and turning into trees or bushes or clumps of reeds. She writes: “I read these as imaginative dramatizations of the paralysis and dissociation caused by trauma. Daphne’s response to Apollo’s assault— she is unable to run or speak and a “heavy numbness seizes her limbs”— captures what happens to victims of sexual assault. Dissociation allows the person under attack to avoid experiencing the assault. Our medical vocabulary terms this involuntary temporary paralysis tonic immobility. The feeling of leaving one’s body and being alienated from it are well documented, as are their longer-lasting effects.” Other myths describe the effects of this kind of trauma on other women like Persephone’s mother, Ceres, who was so overcome by grief that she plunged the world into famine. And there are myths that speak of the silencing and the telling, as well as, the strength found in support from others. Morales writes: “They are perceptive about the psychology of trauma, highlight victims’ strength and strategies of survival, and guide our attention toward aspects of the experience of sexual assault that are sometimes overlooked. They also offer hints of women’s empathy toward one another and the empowerment possible through those seemingly tiny moments of solidarity:”

I’d like to add that often in myths and other artistic creations there is a subtext. Across time and space during oppressive regimes artists and writers have used metaphors or stories to talk about things they couldn’t otherwise articulate without severe consequences. Morales writes: “it’s important to remember when and why he [Ovid] was writing about sexual violence. It was during the reign of the emperor Augustus, which was an oppressive and authoritarian regime, at least for a subversive writer like Ovid. There is a subtext to many of Ovid’s stories about rape.” She claims that Ovid took the association between the gods and the emperor and used it to reveal the authoritarian, controlling side of Augustus. So, rather than focusing on positive aspects of Jupiter and Apollo, Ovid represents them as imposing their power upon unwilling victims and by association suggests that Augustus is autocratic and abusive. She writes: “It is an effective technique. It gives Ovid an out: he avoids direct criticism of an emperor who was prone to exiling his opponents (and who did, eventually, exile Ovid) but allowed readers at the time to join up the dots….”

As I have mentioned the book raises questions about many topics and associated myths, which are not mentioned in this post. Issues to do with racism, gender, the trans experience, environmental destruction, culture and the small or non-existent representation of women’s art, especially Black women, in museums, About museums Morales writes: “but museums are not uncomplicated spaces of display: facing repeated accusations of theft, unethical acquisition and display of objects, and cultural appropriation, museums are at the forefront of the question of who owns culture….. Museums do not just display culture; they create it. Curators are in privileged positions to decide what to include and what to exclude and which artists and whose myths count….”

In the last part of this post I will discuss Antigone’s myth, which in Sophocles’ version does not end well for anyone. It is a layered drama with multiple themes, personality types and ethical dilemmas. The myth of Antigone, as told by the great Greek playwright Sophocles, is one of the most well known of the Greek myths and one most frequently taught at school. My own nine page school essay on this drama, which I wrote when I was seventeen, has somehow survived and is still with me. As I re-read it while writing this post I felt tenderness for this much younger me. Rick Hanson says that we need to embrace and say thank you to the myriads younger versions of ourself that have brought us thus far. My teenage self made me smile even though I was tempted to judge her mild disinterest in paragraphs, crossing out words instead of erasing them and other minor mistakes. The essay is informed by a feminist viewpoint and an empathic understanding for all the characters, even Creon, who my younger self concludes might be the most tragic figure of all. Antigone’s courage and endurance seem to have certainly made an impression on her, but she also empathizes with and understands Ismene’s stance. Morales writes that the story of Antigone is “one of the most meaningful for feminism and for revolutionary politics.  She has become an icon of resistance. Of pitting personal conviction against state law. Of speaking truth to power. Antigone insists on burying her brother Polynices, who has been killed while fighting against her city, Thebes, even though her uncle Creon, who is ruler of Thebes, expressly forbids the burial and will impose the death penalty for her defiance. Antigone, just a child of thirteen or fourteen or fifteen, stands up to a powerful adult, even when her sister won’t and when the citizens of Thebes are too afraid to do so. Antigone also challenges male authority, in the face of Creon’s insistence that women are inferior to men and that men should rule over them. She is vulnerable and terrorized, but she breaks the law anyway……She risks everything for a cause that she believes in and refuses to be cowed either by powerful politicians or by what anyone else thinks. The spirit of Antigone lives on in any women who does this in any small or big way….” Some contemporary young Antigones mentioned in the book are young girls like Greta Thunberg, who went on strike from school to protest outside the parliament or Malala Yousafzai, who campaigned for the rights of girls to be educated, even though it was dangerous to break the law.

Antigone breaks the law even though she is aware of the consequences when she alone buries her brother who is an enemy of the state and defies her uncle Creon, the king of Thebes, who orders that she be buried alive in a tomb. When Creon has a change of heart after the wise old man Teiresias tells him that his actions have been immoral, it is too late. Antigone has hung herself inside the cave and Haemon, who is Creon’s son and Antigone’s fiancé, kills himself, which then leads his mother Queen Eurydice to commit suicide. Death all around. Morales notes that there’s a strand of nihilism in Sophocle’s play that we would do well to reject. She writes: “Creon is left a broken man, but at what cost? As a script for successful activism, this story leaves quite a bit to be desired.” She also points to themes like Antigone’s lack of support and her single-mindedness, which can breed extremism and can be destructive.

Sophocle’s Antigone is one version of this myth, but myths have throughout time been re-imagined and re-told. Artists and writers have sometimes changed the stories, and in doing so Morales says they have subverted the myths (false ideas and beliefs) too. She writes: “the creative adaptations of myth— the stories, videos, images, and novels that present radically different perspectives— are more than individual contestations: they amount to a formidable cultural trend. This was always the case: rewriting myth from different perspectives goes back to antiquity……The Antigone myth is a good example of this. Euripides’s play about Antigone, which no longer survives, almost certainly revised Sophocles’s tragedy and allowed Antigone and Haemon to get married and have a baby son. Scholars’ educated guesses, based on later summaries of the play, envisage wildly different endings for Antigone and her family. Perhaps Creon tracked them down, recognized them, and had them killed. Perhaps the hero Hercules intervened, and they all lived happily after, an ending that would have allowed Antigone to rebel against Creon’s authoritarianism and to have a future. Even more shocking is the likelihood that in Euripides’s version of the myth Haemon helped Antigone to bury her brother. She did not act alone. The possibility of Antigone taking collaborative action is also raised in an exquisite modern adaptation of the myth…..”

So at the end of this longish post I’d like to say that stories matter. Stories have been used to disempower and malign, but they can also be used to inspire and liberate, to build empathy and compassion, to repair and restore respect. The re-reading and re-imagining of old stories can be transformative.

** Helen Morales holds the Argyropoulos Chair in Hellenic Studies at the University of California, taught previously at the University of Cambridge, and has been a Fellow at the Center for Hellenic Studies in DC.

Part three

Myths: artwork and an exercise

Today I’m posting some more of the drawings I’ve been making these last 4-5 weeks and an exercise from Elizabeth Lesser’s book: Cassandra speaks. It has to do with finding one’s voice to speak with honesty and clarity, which requires women first to become aware of how and when they have been silenced both in obvious and more subtle ways. Lesser writes that it takes courage to express one’s anger and truth in a clear voice “because there’s a long line of scorned and punished women behind us, put there in the stories to remind us about what happens to the angry woman…… It’s a slow inner journey for most women to move from repressed bitterness into clearly articulated anger— not mean and weaponized anger, but the “powerful and beautiful” kind that Soraya Chemaly ** writes about. It’s one of the most important inner journeys I have made. I believe that for those of us who finally live in times and places where women can risk being clear and authentically ourselves, it is both a privilege and a priority to speak our truths. Cassandra was punished for speaking clearly. Women around the world still are.”

**A short relevant TED talk by Soraya  Chemaly  (with Greek subtitles) at: https://www.ted.com/talks/soraya_chemaly_the_power_of_women_s_anger#t-690018

Summarily, the instructions for this exercise are:

Breathe in deeply and exhale with a deep sigh several times. Then close your eyes and think about a) a situation in your life, in the past or currently, when you silenced your voice, or when you were silenced by others, at home, at work, in school, in the world more broadly. Let yourself feel the emotions. Then take a pen and paper and answer these questions:

Why did you not speak your truth? Why did you not stand for what you knew, or wanted or what you knew others needed? What happened because of your reluctance to speak?

Centre yourself again with breathing and think of b) a situation when you took a risk to clearly tell your truth. Picture it and feel the emotions. This time answer these questions:

What happened when you owned your truth and spoke clearly about it? What was the price? What was the reward?

Finally, take some deep breaths, close your eyes and think about c) what you aren’t saying today at work, at home, at school, or in any other social context? Some questions you could answer could be:

Would it be wise or kind to be clear, to be forthright, to be courageous? What might the consequences be if you do and if you don’t?

Part two

Myths and her voice       

“If women are not perceived to be fully within the structures of power, surely it is power that we need to redefine rather than women.” Mary Beard

“We realize the importance of our voices only when we are silenced.” Malala Yousafzai

“If people were silent nothing would change.” Malala Yousafzai

This second part focuses more on how women have been silenced, and how public speaking became the domain of men. Before I carry on I’d like to mention that myths provide us with ways to look and understand the world, and there are individual and more collective or universal understandings of myths. They are embedded in our cultures and traditions and can be both destructive and limiting, especially for certain groups of people, but also liberating. Also, there are multiple readings of each myth as each story contains a variety of themes. In her book, Antigone Rising: The Subversive Power of the Ancient Myths, Helen Morales (classicist and the second Argyropoulos Chair in Hellenic Studies at the University of California) writes: “Myths open up new ways of looking at the world. What makes a myth a myth, rather than just a story, is that it has been told and retold over the centuries and has become meaningful to a culture or community. The Greek and Roman myths have become embedded in, and an influential part of, our culture. They form the foundations and scaffolding of the beliefs that shape our politics and our lives. These can be limiting and destructive but also inspirational and liberating.” On a similar note, referring to Homer’s Odyssey, professor of classics and ancient literature, Mary Beard, writes that it would be a cultural crime if we read it only to investigate the well-springs of Western misogyny; it is a poem that explores, among much else, the nature of civilisation and ‘barbarity’, of homecoming, loyalty and belonging.

I’d also like to say that women, at least in the west, have come a long way and have much to celebrate, and there are more women now in positions that allow them to exert societal influence. Yet true and widespread equality between men and women is still a distant thing. Mary Beard, writes: “It is happily the case that there are now more women in what we would all probably agree are ‘powerful’ positions than there were ten, let alone fifty years ago. We should not forget to congratulate ourselves for the revolution that we have all, women and men, brought about…… but, real equality between women and men was still a thing of the future, and that there were causes for anger as well as for celebration.”

In her book, Women & Power, Beard explores the relationship between the classic Homeric moment (described below) of silencing a woman and some of the ways in which women’s voices are also silenced or repressed in our contemporary culture and politics. She suggests that we need to go beyond “the simple diagnosis of misogyny” because it is only one way of understanding or describing this reality. She mentions many instances and ways, both in antiquity and later, of how women have been excluded from public speech. For instance, she mentions how in the early fourth century BC, Aristophanes devoted a comedy to the ‘hilarious’ fantasy that women might run the state. In real life ancient women had no formal political rights, no real economic or social independence, and when women did have power, in drama and myths (Medea, Clytemnestra, and others), they are portrayed as abusers that cause destruction and chaos rather than wise users of power.

There are many mechanisms and structures in place that facilitate the disempowerment, silencing and often severing of women from the centres of power. This has been achieved through many routes since antiquity. The silencing and oppression of women are interwoven with varying levels of trauma and violence, violations of human rights, culture and narratives. Mary Beard  writes: “When it comes to silencing women, Western culture has had thousands of years of practice……This is one place where the world of the ancient Greeks and Romans can help to throw light on our own.” She and other classicists claim that in the literature relevant to the public voice of women one important first recorded example of a man telling a woman that her voice was not to be heard in public was in Homer’s Odyssey (almost 3000 years ago) in the scene where Telemachus, the son of Odysseus and Penelope, tells his mother to go up to her quarters and take up her work. A short extract from Beard’s book describes the scene:  “That process starts in the first book of the poem [Odyssey] when Penelope comes down from her private quarters into the great hall of the palace, to find a bard performing to throngs of her suitors; he is singing about the difficulties the Greek heroes are having in reaching home. She isn’t amused, and in front of everyone she asks him to choose another, happier number. At which point young Telemachus intervenes: ‘Mother,’ he says, ‘go back up into your quarters, and take up your own work, the loom and the distaff … speech will be the business of men, all men, and of me most of all; for mine is the power in this household.”

Beard also discusses Ovid’s Metamorphoses (8 AD), where Jupiter turns Io into a cow, so that she cannot talk but only moo; and the nymph Echo is punished so that her voice is never her own, but only an instrument for repeating others’ words. There were some exceptions in the ancient worlds. Women could speak out as victims and martyrs, mostly to preface their own death. Beard provides the example of Philomela, who was raped and whose tongue was cut off, but still managed to denounce her rapist by weaving the story into a tapestry, which is “why Shakespeare’s Lavinia had her hands, as well as her tongue, removed”. Art and craftwork has been an instrument of healing, expression, and also, resistance, especially for women. Helen Morales writes: “Philomela’s cunning strategy for telling her story by weaving it into a tapestry is part of a larger cultural phenomenon in which women turn to weaving and craftwork as a means of resistance. It goes back to Homer’s Odyssey…..”

However, public speaking wasn’t only something that ancient women didn’t take part in, speaking in public and oratory were considered exclusive practices and skills that defined masculinity as a gender. Beard mentions many examples throughout ancient literature on the authority of the deep male voice in contrast to the more high pitched female. She writes; “As one ancient scientific treatise explicitly put it, a low-pitched voice indicated manly courage, a high-pitched voice female cowardice. Other classical writers insisted that the tone and timbre of women’s speech always threatened to subvert not just the voice of the male orator but also the social and political stability, the health, of the whole state.” A more recent example of this is from Henry James’1886 novel, The Bostonians, where Verena Tarrant, a young feminist campaigner and speaker, is silenced. Interestingly, as she gets closer to her suitor Basil Ransom (a man with a rich deep voice), she finds herself increasingly unable to speak in public. Beard writes about James: “Under American women’s influence, he insisted, language risks becoming a ‘generalised mumble or jumble, a tongueless slobber or snarl or whine’; it will sound like ‘the moo of the cow, the bray of the ass, and the bark of the dog’. (Note the echo of the tongueless Philomela, the moo of Io, and the barking of the female orator in the Roman Forum).”

One might think that this irrational way of viewing things is a thing of the past, but many of our contemporary traditions, conventions and rules of debate and public speaking still lie in the shadow of these outdated ideas of the classical world and beyond.  I was surprised to read that contemporary women politicians and those engaged in public speaking are pushed into voice training classes to get a nice, deep, husky tone. Even though a lot has changed and progress has been made it seems that traditions and narratives underpin much of our contemporary life. Beard writes: “our classical traditions have provided us with a powerful template for thinking about public speech, and for deciding what counts as good oratory or bad, persuasive or not, and whose speech is to be given space to be heard. And gender is obviously an important part of that mix.” There are still countless examples of attempts to write women entirely out of public discourse.  Beard claims that across the board, there is great resistance to female encroachment onto traditional male discursive territories. Women have not only been discouraged, but also insulted and threatened across cultures. A more recent form of violence against women and girl is online abuse. In relation to this she writes that “For a start it doesn’t much matter what line you take as a woman, if you venture into traditional male territory, the abuse comes anyway. It is not what you say that prompts it; it’s simply the fact that you’re saying it. And that matches the detail of the threats themselves. They include a fairly predictable menu of rape, bombing, murder and so forth (this may sound very relaxed; that doesn’t mean it’s not scary when it comes late at night). But a significant subsection is directed at silencing the woman.”

When exploring the silencing of women it is important to look at the prevailing discourse and the cultural assumptions about women’s relationship with power, and as Beard suggests, the shared metaphors of female access to power that we tend to use like ‘knocking on the door’, ‘smashing the glass ceiling’, ‘storming the citadel’. She writes: “Women in power are seen as breaking down barriers, or alternatively as taking something to which they are not quite entitled.” She also suggests we ask the question: If there is a cultural template, which works to disempower women, what exactly is it and where do we get it from?  It is also useful to seriously reconsider power and leadership and to some extent disassociate it from current ideas and structures of power. A lot of the violence and harassment that women and other groups of people have suffered lie in the structures of powers. Beard writes: “That means thinking about power differently. It means decoupling it from public prestige. It means thinking collaboratively, about the power of followers not just of leaders. It means, above all, thinking about power as an attribute or even a verb (‘to power’), not as a possession. What I have in mind is the ability to be effective, to make a difference in the world, and the right to be taken seriously, together as much as individually. It is power in that sense that many women feel they don’t have – and that they want.”

Power does not have to be about domination and control over. Without power we cannot set healthy boundaries and our capacity to move through the world with safety and freedom are greatly compromised. So is our capacity to take part in life as equal and respected individuals,  to create and actualize our dreams and fulfill our potential. Elizabeth Lesser writes: “Power. It’s been so abused that it feels like a dirty word. But what is it actually? Power is a natural force, and it’s something we all want: the energy, the freedom, the authority to be who we are, to contribute, to create. Domination and control have become synonymous with power, but power does not have to come at the expense of others; it does not have to oppress in order to express. The urges to subjugate, punish, or annihilate are corrupted versions of power.”

Finally, as I’ve been writing this piece I realized that around the same time last year I had written a thematically related post. The previous year’s December 12th post (http://www.trauma-art-alexandritonya.com/?p=7250&lang=en) had to do with Malala Yousafzai’s story, who at the age of seventeen received the Noble Prize for Peace after being shot three times for standing up for the right to an education for girls. In her book, Cassandra Speaks, Elizabeth Lesser quotes part of Malala’s speech at the UN: “They thought the bullets would silence us, but they failed. Out of the silence came thousands of voices. The terrorists thought they would change my aims and stop my ambitions. But nothing changed in my life except this: weakness, fear, and hopelessness died. Strength, power, and courage were born.”

P.S.

I’d also like to share the links to two recent podcasts related to the holidays:

a) A conversation between Rick and Forrest Hanson about the pain and struggles that can emerge or come to the foreground more vividly around this time of the year. They discuss family estrangement, joining and distancing and the pain that might accompany this, duties in relationship, grief and functional forgiveness, ways to repair, the importance of distinguishing family systems from individuals and being aware of a wide range of variables influencing family relationships including third parties and systemic and cultural influences at: https://www.rickhanson.net/being-well-podcast-navigating-familial-estrangement/

b) A guided meditation, which I think reflects the spirit of the holidays, by Tara Brach (clinical psychologist and meditation teacher) on how to cultivate loving presence, which she believes is an innate capacity that we can cultivate,at: https://www.tarabrach.com/meditation-awakening-loving-presence-2/

It includes a loving kindness part:

“May we be held in loving presence, be loving presence, trust our basic goodness, trust that we are enough, feel happy, know the joy of being alive, feel deep and natural peace, may our heart and mind awaken and be free….”